I often hear women say they know exactly what they want in a relationship and how they want to be treated by a man. But their current relationship or dating pattern is far from their expectations and desires.
You can be very clear on what you want, and still unable to follow through in making sure your needs are met.
Let's say that you meet a guy who is a breath of fresh air from all the other duds you've went out with recently. He said a few things that didn't sit right with you, but for the most part, the date was a hit. You dismiss some of the deal-breakers and ignore a few red flags because, when you compare this date with the others you've been on lately, this one just isn't so bad.
Are you known to settle for someone who doesn't fit your list exactly, but he's okay for now? At least he's better than being alone, right?
These comments are what I hear all the time from some of the brightest, most beautiful, successful women, all frustrated with meeting the wrong guys or no good prospects at all.
I know what it's like to be at home alone on a Friday night and want so bad to be cuddled up to someone special watching a movie together. It's a natural desire to want to be loved and to be in a fulfilling relationship.
But by settling for "better than nothing", you'll just see more of those kinds of men enter your world.
Until you make a clear declaration that you know what you want, and are faithful you'll get it, the Universe can't line it up.
Do you often settle in a relationship for someone safe, even though there isn't a real electric spark?
Have you made excuses to stay with a man who is emotionally unavailable because you think he'll change, or because it's better than nothing?
Or have you shut yourself off to wanting to feel love because you've been hurt,so you date the guy who doesn't have the power to break your heart?
Making room for an exciting, fulfilling relationship requires clearing the clutter of unhealthy or even just mediocre relationships that are currently in your life and being open emotionally to someone. This may seem heart-wrenching at first! You're taking a huge risk at losing all that you have without any guarantees you'll ever find someone great.
But I can assure you that the only way to attract someone worthy of your heart is to be faithful enough to let everything else go.
By doing this, you are creating a magnetic force that will draw him to you.
