Making decisions can be hard. Especially when it involves decisions about your future. Especially when it involves your future with a man.
Take Becca for example. She loves her boyfriend despite the fact that he's possessive and unreasonably jealous. She doesn't want to leave him but she doesn't know how much more she can take of being stressed out and fearful of his next accusation.
Or Chelsea. She has a man who can provide a comfortable lifestyle for her, but he is emotionally detached. He worries about work all the time, and doesn't include her in deep conversations. She knows he loves her through his actions, but he isn't willing to share in words how deeply he really cares for her.
Have you known someone like Tina? She has been going out with one man for 3 months and she doesn't know where they stand; if he's dating other women or if he wants to commit to just her.
All of these women are faced with two options: Do I accept my current situation, or do I walk away.
Changing him is never an option….ever.
It is time that you stop hoping that a man will become the man you want him to be when he's giving you every indication that he is clueless on how to treat a woman or be in a committed, fulfilling relationship.
If you are stuck in making a choice to stay or go, ask yourself if you are staying with a man hoping that someday he will come to his senses and change. If that is the foundation of your desire to stay….it is time for you to go.
I know that sounds blunt. But it's the truth. SO many woman stay in half-ass relationships because their man has "potential". You are better off finding a man that you can accept just the way he is, even if he never changed a thing about him.
Does this mean that you have to hold out for a guy who thinks, acts, and feels just like you? Absolutely not. As a matter of fact, I strongly suggest you DON'T look for a man who is a mirror of you. Differences are great…and men who challenge you give you a huge opportunity for personal and spiritual growth.
What it DOES mean is that if you are dating a man who hasn't committed to you after a few months, you need to leave. If your dating a shell of a man who doesn't tell you that he loves you after being together for a year, you need to leave. If you're always wondering where you stand with him and you feel like he would leave at any time, leave him first because it's only a matter of time before he does.
The decision really doesn't have to be that difficult. Honestly, relationships don't (and shouldn't) have to be that difficult. It's you who is making it harder than it has to be because you're allowing your fears to override your good judgement.
Fear of not finding anyone else. Fear of never finding love. Fear that you are making the wrong choice….what if this is all there is?
Sound familiar?
If you are on the verge of making a decision to stay or go, ask yourself if you would stay based on fear. Are you afraid that you are not going to find someone who will love you the way you deserve and want to be loved? If your reason for staying is built around fear, you are basing your choice around faulty thinking.
I urge you to have faith in the process. Give the Universe a chance to bring someone into your life who adores you and treats you like gold. Sharing your life with someone you can be vulnerable with is something I believe every woman deserves. But the first step is making room for that person. What do you need to do to take the first step?
